{"id":3760,"date":"2012-12-19T19:39:01","date_gmt":"2012-12-20T00:39:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gozen.com\/?p=3760"},"modified":"2018-11-15T13:15:51","modified_gmt":"2018-11-15T18:15:51","slug":"jessies-hidden-messages-art-therapy-for-social-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gozen.com\/jessies-hidden-messages-art-therapy-for-social-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"Jessie’s Hidden Messages: Art Therapy for Social Anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"

A true story contributed from a school counselor. All of the children’s names have been changed to protect their identities.<\/em><\/p>\n

Jessie came to my school counseling office after being referred by her 5th grade teacher. \u201cJessie has been more anxious in class and at recess in the past month. She seems to have a very difficult time with peer relationships,\u201d the teacher wrote.<\/p>\n

At her first visit to my office, Jessie seemed unsure of herself. She avoided eye contact with me and responded minimally to my questions. However, she told me that she enjoyed using art materials. Jessie agreed to come to counseling a few times to work on art projects that would help her get along better with her classmates.<\/p>\n

\u201cI have two best friends,\u201d Jessie told me during her second visit as she experimented with watercolors on heavy paper. \u201cMandy is really pretty. She has the best clothes and she likes telling us about fashion. And Kaitlyn is really cool and smart and good at soccer.\u201d Jessie added that she felt shy and nervous around Kaitlyn and Mandy, not knowing the right thing to say or do. The more Jessie told me about her two friends, the more it became clear that Jessie didn\u2019t think of herself as cool or smart, or good at anything in particular. To increase Jessie\u2019s self-esteem, I proposed an art therapy project involving a small empty matchbox (the type with a drawer that slides out). I explained that Jessie would be using the matchbox and other materials to show me something about her best qualities as a person.<\/p>\n

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The giraffe’s long neck represents me sticking my neck out for a friend.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

First, I offered Jessie a choice of matchbox size, small or large. She decided to use a small box. Next, I provided a large range of materials\u2014some to decorate the box itself, and others that could be included inside the drawer or glued to the outside. Jessie chose an assortment of small beads and sequins, glitter glue, decorative scrapbook paper, fabric scraps, and a tiny plastic giraffe. She explained that the giraffe\u2019s long neck represented \u201csticking your neck out for a friend\u201d and that she sees herself as being very loyal and helpful. Jessie glued scrapbook paper to the outside of the box and added sequins and glitter glue as decoration. She glued a piece of bright yellow fabric to the inside of the drawer, then added several small colorful beads and the plastic giraffe. Jessie worked on the matchbox project over the course of two sessions. During that time, she was able to articulate several other aspects of herself that she liked, such as being organized with her schoolwork and being a helpful big sister at home.<\/p>\n

In our next two sessions together, Jessie was open to working on a second art therapy project involving hidden messages. She had begun to express mixed feelings about Mandy and Kaitlyn. \u201cThey\u2019re not always nice to me. One time Mandy called me a bad name, and she never apologized,\u201d Jessie said. I showed Jessie how to create a simple pamphlet-style paper book with copy paper, staples, and a piece of colored cardstock for the cover. Then Jessie added two secret elements to her book. She cut a door shape from heavy paper, gluing the hinge to one of the book pages, so that a message could be hidden behind the door. Jessie used alphabet stamps and a stamp pad to carefully create her secret message behind the door: \u201cI want my friends to be respectful of me.\u201d<\/p>\n

Then Jessie glued a small envelope into another page of her book as a place to hide something she wasn\u2019t ready to reveal yet. She spent several minutes carefully hand-writing a one-page letter to Mandy, then read the letter out loud to me. It described how Jessie\u2019s feelings had been hurt by Mandy\u2019s use of a mean name and asked Mandy for an apology. Jessie folded up the letter as small as she could, then tucked it into the hiding place she had created with the envelope and sealed it shut. Jessie appeared to be relieved by the act of writing the letter, but also soothed by the idea that she did not have to share it with Mandy if she chose not to do so.<\/p>\n

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“I want my friends to be respectful of me.”<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

At our next session, Jessie announced that she wanted to read something to me. At home between sessions, she had composed a new letter for both Mandy and Kaitlyn. This one was carefully hand-lettered in brightly colored markers. The letter began by describing what she liked best about each friend and also about herself, then ended by suggesting that the three friends set a ground rule of always respecting each other. Jessie decided to wrap a multicolored ribbon around this letter to make it look special, \u201cbecause Kaitlyn and Mandy are really special friends to me and I\u2019m going to give them this letter today at lunch.\u201d As Jessie left the counseling office, she was smiling broadly with her head held high.<\/p>\n

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A true story contributed from a school counselor. All of the children’s names have been changed to protect their identities. Jessie came to my school counseling office after being referred by her 5th grade teacher. \u201cJessie has been more anxious in class and at recess in the past month. She seems to have a very …