Yikes! I believe we should just be kind, especially to our own children. For every one time you say no, don’t, or stop to your child/class/student, you should follow it with at least 5 positive, descriptive statements of feedback or encouragement. It’s evidence based- try it out

Helps to explain why. They’re *people* learning to deal with emotions and actions.

Children are human beings, who experience hard times just like we do. If you practice the intense self discipline to be successful with the examples provided in this article, you’ll be rewarded with amazing relationships with your kids when they’re adults.

How does that help the child develop internal restraints? You can’t always be there to stop him. He has to learn to control himself. I say “no when the child wants to do something wrong, but I don’t leave him hanging with no way out of the strong emotions. He’ll have to swallow the emotions and will only learn to do that, which doesn’t turn out well. Put more effort into the most important job you’ll ever have.